Even under the best of family conditions parents often disagree about how to parent – how to discipline, how to handle money, how much freedom a child should have. But during or following a family break-up, these disagreements can be magnified, taking on the emotional baggage of the animosity that led to divorce in the first place.
Marti stopped by KARE 11 News at 11 to talk with Bryan Piatt about how parents can set aside their own pain and anger and work together in the best interests of their child. Here are Marti’s suggestions:
1) Get the right kind of help from the beginning.
2) Keep your eye on the goal: your child growing up well.
3) Identify what you and your ex-spouse agree on (the big values, goals and expectations for your child).
4) Agree to disagree on small matters (children can adapt to small differences in rules and expectations in different households).
5) Be supportive of your child’s relationship with the other parent.
For our show on discerning when your marriage can be saved with marriage therapist Dr. Bill Doherty, click here.
For our show on minimizing harm when parents separate with collaborative attorney Ron Ousky, click here.
For our show on collaborative divorce with collaborative attorney Ron Ousky, click here.
For our resource sheets on sustaining healthy relationships, managing relationship challenges, considering divorce options and creating a co-parenting plan to minimize harm to children, click here.