We all feel anxious at times, worrying about a stressful situation and maybe letting our feelings spiral out of control as we imagine a worst possible outcome. This is true for children, as well as adults; in fact, many studies show that anxiety in kids is on the rise, and at least one in twenty experience serious anxiety, including panic attacks and obsessive-compulsive behavior. When anxiety is persistent and severe, children need professional help. But, whether a child’s anxiety is severe or relatively mild, how parents respond makes a difference.
Psychoanalyst Dr. Laurie Hollman has taught graduate courses at NYU and is author of two new companion books, The Busy Parent’s Guide to Managing Anxiety in Children and Teens and The Busy Parent’s Guide to Managing Anger in Children and Teens. She joins Marti & Erin to talk about her 5-step approach, which is very compatible with the “reflective parenting” Marti & Erin speak about so often. One of their favorite parenting nuggets from Laurie is, “The louder you feel like talking, the softer you need to speak.” Listen for more words of wisdom on this important topic!
What were Dr. Hollman’s five steps for responding to your child’s anxiety? Think of a recent situation in which you tried to soothe your child’s anxiety. What would you have done differently if you had followed the five recommended steps for responding to anxiety in kids?
Books by Dr. Laurie Hollman
Blog by Dr. Laurie Hollman
School Anxiety tip sheet by Marti Erickson
Separation Anxiety tip sheet by Marti Erickson
Being a Reflective Parent, Raising Reflective Children tip sheet by Marti Erickson